When Mom is Sick, No one Cares
Is it true that when Mom is sick no one cares? I am not sure 100% sure, but honestly, it sure as heck seems that way.
My 4 year old daughter came down with a brutal cold on Monday of last week. She was coughing, sneezing and snotting all over everything in her path. In fact, she was just generally feeling yucky. So of course, I babied the crap out of her. She got to cuddle into her blankets, watch whatever she wanted on TV and mow down on Popsicles. That sounds like the life to me! However, I always dread when the kids get sick, because then that means that my Husband may get it and if he gets it…. oh boy. Man Flu all over the dang place.
When I woke up on Saturday morning, the first thing I heard was husband coughing, hacking and moaning away. I pretended to be asleep in hopes that I was just dreaming but, oh no… I wasn’t. A few minutes go by, and husband turns to me and says: “I amm sooo siiiiickkkkk”.
He follows his moans and groans with a “Babe, can you please take care of me.”
Of course I can.. So I do. Being sick stinks, I know it does so I do quite enjoy making other people feel better, or at least being able to offer some comfort to them. So I spent the last week taking care of sick kids and sick husband.
Well guess what?!
They are finally better! Husband still has a little residual sick, but he can life without my help now. Isn’t that great news?
You’d think so… except..
I woke up this morning, my eyes were dry and heavy, my head felt like it weighed 100lbs and my throat felt as though it had a frog… no, a dinosaur in it…. So I rolled over in bed and cough and sneezed. I moaned and groaned and you know what happened? Nothing. Nothing happened. No one said: “Oh poor you, I will take care of you!” Nope. None of that. Just a whole lot of: “Mom what’s for breakfast?”, “Mom where are my socks?”, “Mom… Mom… MOOOOOM!?” When mom is sick…. NOTHING.
If a Mom feels sick in her bed and no one is around to hear her, does it even matter at all?
So I am just going to sit here, waiting for someone to come take care of me. Do you think I should hire someone to come dust me off once in a while? I have a feeling I will be waiting for a long time.
Do you feel that when Mom is sick, no one cares?
Yes I feel that way. I have never asked my husband to take care of me but I’m going to ask next time.Your husband asked you to please take care of him. I was like wow I’ll do the same. Maybe that’s why I feel no one cares cause I haven’t let them know I need them to care.
My son and I have been very clearly sick this whole week and when I finally was losing my temper today after having been sick all week and doing ALLLLL the things, my husband said “why are you so upset?” When I responded with “because I am sick and freakin exhausted!!” He goes “you didnt tell me that..” yes. In between blowing my nose, turning on the humidifier for my son and I, I apologize for not pointing out the obvious to you. ♀️
I agree with you. My daughter was sick last week and I was the best comforter she could have. Of course my husband continued to work and come back to cuddle her and read bedtime stories to her. Now while my daughter recuperates, 2 days back I felt feverish. Yesterday I was in a lot of body pain. Guess what my husband did, he went to work came back home for lunch “to check on me” and then left for work again and came back to read stories to her and cuddle her and ask me “how are you?” once. No check if I am taking my meds, while he checked hers 3-4 times. It’s assumed we are adults enough to take care of ourselves ? When he was sick last year I didn’t leave his side for a minute, producing things before him even before he asked for it. What does a woman have to do here to get some care without asking for it ? It’s assumed our roles are of caregivers but come on – we are human. We want to be cared for. I am so missing my mum right now but I can’t call her over because I am worried I will give her what I have. I know this is just the fever talking and tomorrow I may just laugh this off.