I had a Big Baby- The Big Baby Club- My Lady Parts Don’t Need Sympathy

Did you happen to have a big baby? I had a Big Baby. Were you one of those women that has birthed a baby 9lbs 5oz or more? If your answer is yes, then I am welcoming myself into the big baby club…. and in a way… it kinda sucks.

Big Baby Club

Every time I go somewhere and people ask me how old my 13 day old daughter is… and I tell them.. I get the “OH WOW!” response followed by being asked how big she was at birth… which is then followed by the “Your poor vagina” look. I have to admit, I am not a fan of people immediately looking at me, pity in their eyes when they find out that I had a 10lb baby.. and I certainly don’t need the grocery clerk at the local health food store thinking about my vagina and the carnage it just endured. Comment that she’s cute… FINE! Comment that she looks like her Daddy and her Brother… Great! But look at me with THOSE eyes… and you can just STOP! Just STOP IT NOW. Stop wondering if I still have an anus… stop wondering if I will ever be able to walk properly again. JUST STOP IT!

Yes, I had a big baby. Yes, it was uncomfortable and still is a little.. Am I ok? Yes! Does my vagina need your sympathy? NO! This is almost as bad as being 7 months pregnant and being told “Oh my goodness you are going to pop any day!” NO I WASNT, I WAS JUST PREGNANT WITH A FREAKING GIANT!

Why she was so big? I don’t know! My son was 6lbs 13oz and a week early, she was huge and a day late… but regardless of WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHY or HOW… My vagina doesn’t require your looks of sympathy… It can’t see them anyways.


  1. Terri on November 2, 2011 at 3:34 am

    lol sorry i just have to comment on this post.

    Seeing as I am also one of those moms that has had two children over 10lbs i feel your pain, literally…lol. It is annouying, but honestly hun you will get use to it because heres the kicker of it all…it never stops, even till this day with people who already know how big damien and ella were they still give me those looks whenever SOMEONE else has a baby and then blab to them about my poor vagina!!! So now ive just gotten in the habit of blurting it out and getting it done and over with…and then i walk away…lol. and a note to all those people who are “pitting our vaginas”, thats what they are there for to birth children and well if they couldnt handle it they wouldnt of spat the kid out of it and they do go back to normal eventually, so thus…vaginas dont need “pitting”.

    Theres my two cents, as par being a mom who has birthed huge children..lol.


    • Ninja Mommers on November 2, 2011 at 3:28 pm

      It’s funny Terri,
      Because I am positive that I was one of those people to you when I found out the size of your babies.. but I totally get how frustrating it must have been for you to get those looks. LOL! I really don’t mind when family or friends say things and make jokes.. but when random people I have never met and will probably never see again make their comments and their facial expressions I want to just punch them lmao!
      Lovers You Too My Friend! <3

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  3. NJ @littleluckeh on December 2, 2014 at 8:16 am

    My boy – 10 lbs (even) & 22.5 inches
    Yep, I am in your club.
    Yep, I read into the “looks” too but I didn’t care. After 3 days at the hospital, mostly in labor & finally a C-section I didn’t care what people thought about me. It was all about my beautiful baby boy. Your blog did remind me of those mini moments & made me giggle out loud.Thanks for that 🙂

  4. Kelly Arnell on July 7, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    Men’s penises double or triple in size when they have an errection and then return to normal size. Why is it so hard to believe that a woman’s cervix can stretch to 10 cm and then also return to normal? Vaginal tearing usually has more to do with labor positions and speed of delivery rather than the size of the baby. It’s quite possible to have big babies and not tear at all and also have small babies and suffer major tearing.

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