What NOT to Say to Stay at Home Moms- 15 Things to Avoid Voicing

If you are wondering what not to say to stay at home moms, you have come to the right place. Prepare to be educated.

What not to say to stay at home Moms

If you aren’t a stay at home mom it can be hard to understand what it is that stay at home moms do all day. It can seem as though it’s a mystery. In fact, even my husband doesn’t quite understand it. He doesn’t seem to understand why I may not have time to call the bank for him during the day, or email his mother. There is a simple explanation for that. My kids won’t let me sometimes! Not all the time, but sometimes, the second I pick up the phone they are fighting, need a drink, or hurt themselves. It’s life. If he can make the phone call to ask me to make a phone call, he should have used that phone call to call the dang bank himself. I am getting ahead of myself here, this isn’t me ranting about how little my husband understands about being home keeping the house clean and dealing with kids all day every day… That’s for another day. 

The point of today, is to let you in on what not to say to stay at home moms, or at least what to try NOT to say. I would suggest trying hard, these can really upset someone. If you don’t know what not to say to stay at home moms, well, you are about to find out. 

What not to Say to Stay at Home Moms- 15 Things to Avoid Voicing

1. Must be Nice to get to Stay Home.

In fact, it is nice. Easy? No. Nice? Yes, sometimes. 

 2. What do you do all day?

Nothing. I do nothing all day. Is that what you are implying?

 3. Do you think you will ever get a real job?

A REAL Job? Excuse me? 

 4. Don’t you ever wish you had your own Money?


 5. I would be so bored!

You wouldn’t have time to be bored, and if you do, fire the nanny and get back to me.

 6. I should get pregnant so I don’t have to work either!

OH! Yes, you should! Do that. Call me in 9 months and let me know how this “not working” thing is going for you! 

 7. Why sweatpants? Don’t you have anything else?

I do, but I hardly want to be running to the dry cleaner 4 times a day to get peanut butter off my designer pants. 

 8. Your husband must make a lot of money to allow you to stay at home!

Allow? No. Agreed upon by both parties? Yes. Lots of Money? No, but we make it work!

 9. You look tired, go for a nap today!

Shall I do that before, or after the kids decide to throw sparkles all over the house?

 10. Enjoy every second of it, they grow up so fast. 

I get that they grow up fast, but I mean, how can one enjoy EVERY second? Unless you enjoy being pooped on. 

 11. Do you ever feel like you wasted all that money on your education just to stay at home?

“Just” to stay home? WOW! You have opened my eyes to the education I have left behind. 

 12. Does your Husband give you an allowance?


 13. So what do you do with all that free time?

Think of all the dumb questions I hear constantly…. and what free time?

 14. It must be nice not to have a boss! 

It is interesting that the people that run my day are less than 3ft tall and can barely talk if that’s what you mean. 

 15. How is your house so messy if you’re home all day?

Because so are the kids.

 What Dumb things Have People Said to you about being a Stay at Home Mom? Do you know what not to say to stay at home moms?


  1. Randa @ The Bewitchin' Kitchen on November 5, 2014 at 3:59 pm

    All of these annoy me to a great extent. I work at home now as well, but mostly people still see me as a stay at home mom. “Maybe you should try to make your own money.”

    Maybe you should get your nose out of your A$$ 😉

  2. Kyla@Mommy's Weird on November 5, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    LOL. This is too great. I can relate to #10 and #15

  3. LaQuita on November 5, 2014 at 5:12 pm

    OMG, yes to all of these! I’ve been a WAHM for the last nine years. Staying home is hard. We do a lot, especially since we have to focus on the kids, the household and if you work from home, your work too. Managing what you do with your is one of the biggest things we do. I hate when someone asks what I do all day or if I just sit and watch TV all day. My television stays on Disney Junior, Treehouse and The Family Channel 95% of the time. LOL

  4. Tammy @inRdream on November 5, 2014 at 6:31 pm

    As a stay at home mom for 8.5 years now I can relate. I am overly blessed to be home but I don’t stop running from 6am – 8pm BUT I wouldn’t have it any other way. I have been asked many of the question you posted, the one that gets me is when they ask about money. Do you get allowance? haha What is his, is mine and mine, is his, isn’t it that way everywhere? Oh gotta run All my children is on 🙂 haha

  5. Brandy on November 5, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    Must be nice to stay home. Yes it is but like you said, it is not easy. Most days I long to be back out there in the working world but all of the reasons I left my job to stay home come back to me (costs of daycare, costs of vehicle upkeep and gas, stress, etc.). Not that I am not stressed when I am at home because I am. There are pros and cons to staying at home and working outside of the home.

  6. Lindsay on November 5, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    The “real job” one gets my goat. My son goes to day care part time, and if caring for children weren’t a “real job,” then I wouldn’t have a day care. Does that make sense? I mean, I am paying his day care Mama, who is AMAZING, to care for him in the same way that I do when I’m home with him. So ya, it’s definitely a real job!

  7. Jenna Em on November 5, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    I don’t know what’s better, your point 9 or point 11! I’m the mom to 5 young kids, and also work from home full-time…and yet people say ridiculous things about the stay-at-home part.

  8. Touristmeetstraveler on November 6, 2014 at 7:00 am

    Stay at home parents have a lot more work to do than other’s think.

  9. Lisa on November 6, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    I’m a WAHM and occasionally get these questions…people just don’t get it.

  10. Hannah (mamafrog) on November 7, 2014 at 3:59 pm

    Yes, especially 8 and 4. The comment I’ve also been getting since my son was about 9 months that winds me up is
    “have you got his name down for nursery yet” – no, I’m staying home to raise him
    ” but if you change your mind he might not get a place”- great then I’ll have to stay at home
    “Arent you worried he’s missing out on social interaction” – he does go outside and mingle, I’m pretty sure he’s not missing out by being in a 1-1 care environment over a 1-5 care environment.

    Why is it so hard for people to understand?

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